I find it interesting that some parents seem personally offended by the childfree lifestyle. Yes, we know your kid is the best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-in-your-life, your pride and joy, your reason for living. And we’re happy for you. Truly, we are. But it’s not for us. We don’t want to be argued with or convinced otherwise. Parenting is one experience, one journey. We are taking a different path.
The two things that linger in the back of my mind about our decision are the fact that my parents will never get a chance to be grandparents (my Dad is particularly bummed about this), and the possibility of dying old and alone. When it comes down to it though, is having kids just so you might have someone to take care of you when you’re old really a good reason to have them? Not really. All of our friends who have kids wanted to be parents, and are happy with their lifestyles. Parenting isn’t something you can casually dabble in. You have to be fully committed.
I recently read a great book of essays by women on not having kids, No Kidding: Women Writers on Bypassing Parenthood. It was great to read the experiences of other women who have made the same decision who are happy with their choices. I would recommend checking it out if you’re struggling with other people’s views about your decision to be childfree or just want something to relate to.
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Time Magazine also wrote a very interesting cover story about the Childfree Life in the August 12, 2013 issue:
Other great resources for childfree people:
1) Why No Kids? http://whynokids.com
WhyNoKids.com is a great site that has a lot of stories, advice, links, etc for anyone who has opted out of pro-creation. You can also subscribe to updates by liking them on facebook at http://www.facebook.com/whynokids
2) DINKs Finance http://www.dinksfinance.com/
If you are a couple who both work and have no kids, you are “Dual Income No Kids,” or a DINK. This is a great website for couples looking to plan financially without having to worry about buying diapers or sending someone to college.
3) Kid Free and Lovin’ It! www.kidfreeandlovinit.com
Kaye Walters is the author of a book of the same title as her site, and has a site with lots of resources for the childfree community.
4) We’re (Not) Having a Baby! http://werenothavingababy.com/
This is a great blog centered around being childfree, created by Amy (a sociology professor who studies childfree families) and Lance, her husband. They offer a lot of great articles and posts about childfree people and lifestyles.
5) The Not Mom http://thenotmom.com/
The Not Mom is a site specifically for women who are childfree with some very interesting articles.